Unqualified, and of no use

I can report that I failed in an attempt to help someone yesterday.

I was sat in a local coffee shop that has good green tea and good wifi, and I overheard the boss talking to his assistant.  He said to her that he wouldn’t be able to take a day off this month because lots of staff are away, and he hasn’t plucked up the courage to tell his girlfriend yet.

Aha!  A chance for spontaneous helpfulness perhaps…

So I went up to him and briefly explained what I was doing, and when he didn’t flinch too much, I offered to volunteer for a day so that he could do something nice with his girl.  My services could include clearing up, washing up, cleaning the loo, smiling at customers and perhaps using common sense wherever possible.  I had in mind that in return he could maybe “pay it forward” – do something for someone else that he wouldn’t otherwise have done, or maybe his shop could support a local activity that I had been quietly dreaming up in the corner of his shop.

He asked me if I was able to do coffee.  I said no, I can’t even drink coffee.  He replied (in the nicest way) that if I can’t do coffee then he can’t take a day off, and anyway he has several people to help him with the dishes.

So I switched to ordering a sausage roll, which left us both happy.

Perhaps it was a little insensitive of me to think that a trained barista and business owner could be substituted by a toilet scrubber.  Perhaps it was a little presumptuous of me to think that he wanted any help anyway.

What certainly was interesting was that I was nervous to go up to a semi-stranger to ask him if I could help, so clearly I need to be doing it more until it feels natural.

And if you’re ever anywhere near the Black Lab cafe near Clapham Common tube, go in and get a sausage roll – they are delicious.

3 comments on “Unqualified, and of no use
  1. Jonnie Taylor says:

    The first blog of yours I have read, and I love it! One can understand why your offer of help was rebuffed, but I find myself questioning why he, appreciating that you might have a bit of time on your hands, did not offer to train you up as a barista, so you could cover for him!

  2. H Gracie says:

    A rejected offer is not the same as a failure. I think its fairly natural to reject offers from strangers but your act probably stayed with him for the rest of the day and I bet he told his girlfriend about it when he was telling her he wasnt allowed any time off. Maybe hes never heard of paying it forward and will help to spread that idea. I think your offer probably produced many positive results without you realising it.

    Also, did you approach him waving a toilet brush as per your drawing? If so that is probably the reason why he wouldnt let you near the coffee, maybe leave it under your chair next time and only produce it if your offer is accepted

    • Chris says:

      I love your positive thinking Helen.

      I love your practical thinking too. The loo brush was too pushy on reflection.

      Enthusiasm is good, but if it is unhygienic then it can be very offputting.

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